Brotherhood Toast

Why Are Black Men Leaving the Church?

Patterson, Lingo, Randle and Caesar

In this episode of The Brotherhood Toast, we engage in a candid and respectful conversation about a difficult and often avoided topic: why many Black men are leaving the church. We explore whether the modern pulpit has shifted its focus from the core teachings and example of Jesus to messages centered on prosperity, status, and material success. We also examine the impact church culture may have on family dynamics, including the tension that can arise when pastoral influence is perceived to outweigh a husband’s leadership in the home. This episode is not about assigning blame, but about asking hard questions, challenging assumptions, and opening space for honest dialogue. It is a reflective discussion for anyone concerned about faith, leadership, accountability, and the spiritual well-being of Black men and their families.


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